The following is a submission from a friend of mine. Let’s call her Nicole. Nicole is a very good friend of mine and she’s an inspiration. She’s a woman who not only knows her worth, but strongly believes in her desires and she’s patient about the timing of it all. Here is what she had to say:
It’s the longest relationship I’ve been in, largely because I don’t feel any kind of marry-me-now pressure from her
This is a quote from a very respected member of the Christian community. A man who has brought God to the big screen In a big way. One who refused to work with tv networks unless they allowed him to use God’s name in his sitcoms. Christian’s make mistakes all the time. We are not perfect, so praise God for being a God of mercy and sparing his wayward children from the many awful things we deserve. We are all flawed and he knew that and that is the reason He gave us the most amazing gift of sending His son to die on the cross for our sins. All have sinned and come short of the glory of God and there is no one walking this earth who has lived a perfect life aside from Jesus.
That being said we do not represent Jesus well. We do not represent the man who gave His life for us well when we go against the laws given for our protection when we commit sin and treat it as if it is not such a big deal. It is one thing to make a mistake, another to callously revel in it, and yet another to make those who are trying to live for the Lord’s honor feel as if the problem is with them.
This is the longest relationship you have had because she is not pressuring you to marry her now. This is your sister in Christ but every time you take her to bed you treat her more like a harlot than royalty which is what she is if she truly is sister in Christ. What you say in that one quote is that I don’t want a woman who respects herself, I don’t want a woman who makes me accountable, and I don’t want a woman who hold to the precepts given by my Lord and savior. Moreover, you are insutating that those women who expect all that they’re heavenly father, the God that you server, wants for them are expecting too much.
Respect is just the minimum