So…. I started a book club. It’s something that I have always wanted to do and it allowed me to truly develop my leadership skills. I started the club, I picked the first book, and I led the discussion.
First book: I, Isaac, take Thee Rebeckah. Author: Ravi Zacharias.
My thoughts are as follows:
This book was little different, there were no characters and there was no plot. I understand that many may not have enjoyed the book, but I enjoyed it for what was. That is- a philosophical look into the biblical notion of relationships and marriage translated into modern terms. I’ve always struggled with the idea of whether the bible should be read literally or whether the bible should be interpreted to conform with societal changes. This book supported the latter, and I can appreciate that.
First, the book begins discussing how Abraham asked his trusted servant to go an find a wife for his son, Isaac. Abraham’s wife, Sarah, was dying and the intent was for Isaac to marry before her demise. The servant went off on his task. Before he scope out potential maids, he did something that I remember my middle school nun (I went to catholic school) telling us to do. She told us that when we feel that we are ready for marriage we should say a prayer and ask the Lord to bring us a partner and took protect us from those that he did send. That is exactly what the servant did-he prayed, then soon thereafter he encountered Rebekah. To me this is a modern touch, I mean how often do we find ourselves asking for a “sign” before we take a leap of faith? Not just relationships, but we do this with our careers and other major life decisions.
Next, the book discusses another issue in very modern terms: parental approval. It comes to no surprise that even today when we take a potential mate to meet the parents it is very serious and nerve-racking event. We wonder if our parents will like our choice, will they fit-in? Especially if you have a close relationship with your parents, you probably value their opinions. Especially their opinion of the person that you want to move into everlasting love with. ( You see what I did there ☺). Anyways, I like how the book uses biblical references to explain how parental approval is necessary, however sometimes it isn’t practical. Parental approval is important because your parents should serve as your wise mentors. But what if your parent’s disapproval is because they dislike your potential mate’s appearance, religion, skin-color, political beliefs, body weight, etc. Then what? Do you turn your back on love because of that? No, its not practical. In the book the author’s parents and his in-laws disapproved of their union because of cultural reasons. Obviously, that isn’t practical. And the bible will not condemned your forever simply because your parents aren’t practical.
The most important point the book makes is the “will to do.” I think people have a tendency to get into relationships for the glamorous aspect or rather how it may be perceived as glamorous. A relationship is not about posting cute pics with though provoking quotes. The book states “pictures can tell an awful lot that’s not there” This reminds us of that. It is the WILL to do. Two people must be willing to go through the hardwork or rather the not so glamorous part of the relationship. The part that occurs when the cameras are off and there are no more quotes. The book describes this as the “fabric of society”, and it is. Romance is perceived in a rather materialistic way. It goes to r It says “God designed marriage for union and communication” — that is the hard part. My favorite quote from this chapter “ love is as much a question of the will as it is if the emotion. And if you will to love somebody, you can.”
Lastly, the book ends with a very important message how prayer in a relationship is necessary. As the old saying goes “a family that prays together, stays together.” I love how the author describes the moment when Rebekah first met her husband, he was on his knees praying. I mean what a wonderful image of woman to stand at awe in the sight of her strong man bending down to the will of God.
Until Next Month 🙂