1 Corinthians 13:4-8 is widely popular bible verse that is often recited at wedding ceremonies. You’ve all heard it, “love is patient, love is kind it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” We’ve all heard it, agreed with it, or just dismissed it. This is the ideology, this is the theory of love that most of us have come to know. So then it begs the question, when did we become less patient than love?
All too often we sign on to Facebook, instgram, twitter or a personal blog site and one of our friends just got engaged. From the very cheesy “he liked it so he put a ring on it” to the all too common “she said yes!” It is almost as if society is rubbing it in our face that this is where we should be in life and this is where we are not. So then the obvious happens, we begin to compare our lives to our friends lives. We use this logic “Mary got engaged at age 25, I’m 25 so I should be engaged.” Or more like this ” Mary and David dated for 1 year before he asked her. I’ve been dating 3 years and I still haven’t been asked.” The fallacy in this logic should be obvious. Simply put: we need to stop comparing our lives to the lives others and remember that love is patient.
Love is patient, it does not operate on the timeline of others. Rather, love operates on the timelines of out hearts. We have to stop pressuring our significant others to play catch-up to the rest of our friends and buy the ring. We need to start allowing ourselves to be patient in love, then we’ll become much happier. Imagine how happy you would be if you just enjoyed the company of your significant other rather than obsessing with some made-up timeline of where you should be in your relationship.